This life of living in more than one place is not an easy task. It has its rewards, and it has high costs; financially and emotionally. I think my costs are highest in the financial department and my children’s costs are highest in the emotional department.
So the question arose last night from one of my daughters, “Why?…”
And that was hard to answer in full honesty without giving her more detail than she needed. (Development-appropriate answers are always a part of parenting, and so often we have to learn it on the fly because the kids ask when they want to know, not necessarily when we feel like explaining.)
Why? Because life ahead required new possibilities, new opportunities, and new ways of living. Improved family dynamics require sane and sensible leadership, with forward vision. I just couldn’t figure out any way to develop those fresher ways of living, and have a true-to-my-heart forward vision, while remaining in the same old circumstances and settings. There’s a reason for that.
“No one sews a piece of unshrunk cloth on an old garment. If he does, the patch tears away from it, the new from the old, and a worse tear is made. And no one puts new wine into old wineskins. If he does, the wine will burst the skins—and the wine is destroyed, and so are the skins. But new wine is for fresh wineskins.” (Rabbi Jesus, of Nazareth)
My life has enough rents and tears, no need to make the holes bigger. Oklahoma is the pre-shrunk cloth to the garment of my life. The land by the lake is the new skins for new wine; and we intend to share!